Self-Sabotage – It’s insidious!
Hi everyone! In my exciting and ongoing endeavors in internet marketing, I’ve learned a great deal from Igor Kheifets, John Thornhill, Michael Cheney, and my son, Devin Midro. At times, it’s been a painful journey with ups and downs, but the learning never stops.
Recently, I’ve been focusing on self-sabotage in business! It’s a nasty habit at the very least and a formidable roadblock to success at its worst.
So, what does self-sabotage look like?
Do you:
- Procrastinate?
- Miss appointments?
- Work hard and then drop the ball at a critical moment?
- Make excuses and blame others?
- Set goals that are too high or too low?
- Engage in negative self-talk or self-criticism?
- Refuse to ask for help?
- Feel you’re a perfectionist?
- Get stuck in fear?
- Self-medicate with drugs, alcohol, or comfort eating?
- Feel you have no value?
Self-sabotage can happen consciously or subconsciously. Fear of failure (or even fear of success) is often the cause. People with low self-esteem become uncomfortable when getting close to a win because they assume they will fail.
But what we’re afraid to do is, in fact, a clear indicator of the very next thing we need to do.
Five (5) ways to stop self-sabotage:
- Develop self-awareness: Do a little self-research to see if your behaviors align with your long-term goals.
- Write it out: Keep a journal to document your thoughts and progress.
- Create a plan: Identify triggers and have a plan in place to offset any negative behaviors.
- Practice mindfulness: Notice habits and thought processes that cause failure/success.
- Communicate: Share your goals, fears, and challenges to hold yourself accountable.
It’s important to note that self-sabotage is not just limited to business but can also affect other areas of life, such as relationships, health, and personal growth. It’s a self-destructive behavior caused by various factors such as fear, lack of self-esteem, or negative self-talk. Overcoming self-sabotage requires a willingness to change, self-awareness, and a strong support system. By recognizing and understanding the patterns of self-sabotage, individuals can take steps to break free from it and achieve their goals. It’s a process that requires patience, commitment, and self-compassion.
If self-sabotage is holding you back, it’s time to acknowledge the problem, initiate a paradigm shift, and realize the success you deserve (no negative self-talk here, please).
While you’re making these changes, remember to be kind to yourself!
Do yourself another big favor and check this out. Please comment and share!
